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  • When Is It Okay Not To Practise?

    Practise hard to make sure you hit all the right notes on the day!
    Practise hard to make sure you hit all the right notes on the day!

    I thought I’d pose this question because last week I was working with a client the day before she had a job interview.

    When I asked if she’d like some time to practise her interview answers together she laughed and said ‘no, that wouldn’t be necessary.’

    …Apparently she was a confident interview candidate and had taken part in many ‘good’ first and second interviews before.

    This was worrying.

    Worrying, because if someone thinks they’re okay when they’ve had lots of interviews, they’re missing the point: They’re supposed to get a job.

    Having lots of interviews can mean that they have a great CV, but tend to under-perform in some way when put under pressure. People shelter under the notion that lots of interviews must mean they’re doing something right. Wrong. It’s a warning signal that they’re stumbling somewhere and need help to find out why.

    I chatted all this through with the client and she laughed again, in a hollow kind of way, that suggested I was right. We did a little demo interview and sadly I was. However, after a sharp 30 minutes of practise-review-practise-review she was much improved and could now:

    1) Keep her answers to about 60 seconds. Any longer and it’s called ‘waffle’.

    2) Include numbers in her answers. Numbers tell the story for you and show the scope and scale of the good work you have completed.

    3) Answer the question. A common question for a manager to be asked is: ‘When have you overcome resistance?’ A snappy answer using the STAR technique is a great way to impress, so learn to anticipate common questions and rehearse your answers, because it will help to reduce the pressure you’re under and to increase your ability to clinch a job.

    With the STAR approach all you do is STate the issue, talk about the Actions you took (I, not We here)* and finally outline the positive Results for you and the organisation.

    So, going back to the question in the title, the answer is, of course: Never.

    It’s a trick question really, as there is never an interview, speech, presentation, debate or sales pitch that isn’t improved by a bit of practise.

    So, as you look ahead to your work over the next two weeks… What do you need to practise for?

    Go for it!

     

    *Talk about ‘what I did was…’ because they’re not interviewing the team. They’re just interviewing you. Hiding behind ‘what we did was…’ looks woolly and your contribution is hard to spot.

  • How To Have A Happy Birthday

    Action Man ...in his birthday jump suit! Who says orange isn't styish?
    Action Man …in his birthday jump suit! Who says orange isn't styish?

    I love birthdays and despite mine often clashing with a Wimbledon final, causing me to be hoofed out into the garden as a kid to give the adults a bit of peace for the tennis, I do like 5th July very much. However, a side effect of that date is I’ve always resented Wimbledon’s looming presence and would confess that I find bouncing a hairy little ball over a net rather dull.

    I mean when you have Action Man battles to be fought who would possibly trade that to watch McEnroe beating Borg?

    This week I had a birthday and polled many good wishes from all sorts of lovely people. The joy of Twitter and Facebook is that people will stop and say hi, so many thanks for all the kind words folks.

    And I had a great day, which comprised:

    1. Picnic breakfast
    2. Running the r/c boats with the kids before school.
    3. Zoo trip with the Twins and their nursery class. (This included spending time with the Mingos and asking Oz to take his hand out of the fish tank, as he couldn’t read the ‘these fish will bite’ sign).
    4. Lounging on my new sun lounger. (Not at the zoo, I hasten to add).
    5. Reading a bit.
    6. Playing bass guitar for a while.
    7. Paddling in the sea.
    8. Swimming in the sea with all the kids.
    9. Sherry.
    10. A tasty tea with cake and candles.
    11. More sherry.
    12. Bit of telly, then happy birthday sleeps.

    Now that is a cool birthday. I had some presents as well which I ate, drank, listened to and played with (a tin toy of flying aeroplanes, for example).

    So, I am properly birthdayed-out for another year.

    Now, if you’re thinking that I’m being a bit self indulgent here – that’s the point! We’re all special lovely people and our birthday is our special day. I’ve not always been able to have the day off work, so this year was better than many, but I always find some things to do that make me smile.

    Sadly, I’ve met many people who let their birthday slide by unnoticed, which is a real shame – we all need big birthday strokes.

    Therefore, when planning your next birthday, please follow my A-B-C of birthday happiness:

    A) Book the day off work.
    B) Plan to do at least three things that day that make you smile (they don’t have to be expensive).
    C) Look forward to accepting birthday strokes.

    I’m 43 now and next year will be just as good, so I can’t wait to be 44! Getting older just means I need a bigger cake to handle the candles! A win! I love cake!

    …Oh and Mingos are what Oz calls Flamingos. And a ‘stroke’ is a unit of recognition and we all thrive on these – they’re like soul food.

    Happy Birthday to you all!