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  • Three Questions To Ask Your Team

    Real blue sky thinking.
    Real blue sky thinking.

    What’s the difference between leadership and management? A question that surfaced again last week when I was coaching a client. In my experience, people need leading, whereas detail needs managing. My client had increased on-time delivery from 24% to 94% in the space of a couple of months. We were chatting about this success and I realised that what he had done really well was to give his team clear direction and encouragement to solve the problems they had. He had also set up regular morning meetings, focused on simple capacity planning issues and doggedly kept his team aimed squarely at the problem. Curiously, he didn’t think that he had done anything himself, which surprised me, as he had done a great deal. A great deal of leading that is. Leading is work too and it was great to hear how his clear leadership, as opposed to detail management, had brought success for them all.

    I tried to pin down the root of what made him effective and the answer was very simple. He tended to ask questions. Questions engage us, they force us to think and to confront issues that we have been ignoring. I wrote down three of his favourite questions and here they are, reproduced in all their splendour:

    Q1. How can you make your life easier?

    Q2. How can you get around this problem?

    Q3. What do you think?

    I like these. They remind us that great leadership is often about asking great questions. Simple really.

     

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  • An Active Listening Tip

    Chicken tonight? Not this one.
    Chicken tonight? Not this one.

    In the run up to Christmas my mind is preoccupied with a host of trivia and I imagine that it’s the same for most people. Presents to buy, people to meet and office parties to attend, where you have to make small talk and look interested. A tip for all of us sipping white wine and pretending to have a good time, is to remember that if we want to look like we’re listening then it pays to switch off our internal dialogue.

    What’s going on inside our head tends to show up on our face. If we’re nodding attentively and at the same time musing over the question:

    “What shall I have for dinner tonight?”

    Then in reality we are listening to ourselves and not to them. A good tip is to stop the ticker-tape spooling between our ears, nod and say to the other person:

    “I hear you.”

    More often that you might think, people do need to be reassured and it’s much more engaging to do this, than to paper over a vacant stare with a friendly nod.

    …Now then what’s for dinner tonight? …Mmmm….let me think….

    In the Shop

    Christmas generates stress, in the same way that the sun generates heat. If you know of someone who could do with a cool down then I would recommend the Time Management pack in the shop. Look up the Drivers model and find useful ways to do things differently.